No, you can’t Twitter at the Altar

Sarah (thanks my dear!) posted a link on Face­book about a bride and groom twit­tering and face­booking at the altar. There’s a video which I can’t bear to watch which shows a young (too young?) minister/​celebrant/​officiant/​something looking on.

Someone else can address the reli­gious aspects of this. If this is a reli­gious cere­mony, is it respectful? Clergy, please weigh in on this. If you’ve invited the Divine to show up at your wedding, should She/​He have to wait around while you get in touch with people who don’t care because people who do care are at your wedding? I know that there’s a craze in certain tradi­tions for people to twitter during church about church. um, the multi­tasking thing? not paying atten­tion! um, marriage? really, really important!

The groom said he did it to be funny. Not paying atten­tion at your wedding cere­mony to the vows you’re making is not funny, it’s just imma­ture. And there’s that other thing. It’s impo­lite. To your commu­nity, to your cele­brant and to that person who just said she/​he wants to spend the rest of their life with you.

And why do I think that this is a picture of a wedding where the couple are “cutely” tweeting their vows to one another. Do you see anyone at the table who cares?

Tweet, tweet love aint what it used to be

Tweet, tweet love ain’t what it used to be

Tip: Sorry, the Wedding Priestess disagrees. This is not a sweet personal touch in a wedding cere­mony. When tech­nology gets your grandma in the nursing home at your wedding, that’s a good use of the tech. When you take time off to show everyone how cute you are, whether that’s with tech­nology or a piece of string, that’s inappropriate!