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Rose Pedals Bike Weddings

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You’ve heard the Wedding Priestess jump up and down about Eliz­a­beth Oakes before. Well, she’s done it again. She’s just opened up Rose Pedals Bike Weddings. It’s fabu­lous. If you live in her area, or you’re thinking of taking a quick vaca­tion there, you can married very quickly, very styl­ishly, and very easily.

Follow Eliz­a­beth and elope on your bicycle! Because she lives in Cali­fornia and has a myste­riosa connec­tion so that she can provide a confi­den­tial license which requires no witnesses. Is this sounding good yet? Have you gone to look at this? Check out this fabu­lous photo by Steven Lam (He does all her photog­raphy) and then consider whether a huge wedding and lots of stress or a tiny wedding with just the eensiest number of friends and fami­lies (enough for a post-​​ceremonial bike parade!) is what you really want. And after all, you’ll already be in honey­moon territory!

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I keep telling the Rev. Ms. Eliz­a­beth that she’s the bees knees. There are only three things keeping me from swiping this notion: 1) i live in a rural area (although remember, i travel), 2) we’re a lot more seasonal than she is and 3) oh, yeah, i forgot, i can’t ride a bike! Somehow the picture of WP furi­ously pedaling after you on her tricycle isn’t appealing at all! “Wait, hey guys, wait for me!” Oh, right, I’ve done that. Kudos, Madame Bike Priestessa on your Contessa!

Fabulous: And Did They Work This Hard on Their Wedding Vows?

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Along with everyone else, I loved this video. 12 million people or so have loved it on YouTube. It says a lot about who this couple is and what a good time they have together.

So does it make Wedding Priestess a bad sport when the first thing she thought was “what were their wedding vows like?” Did they work as hard on the vows that will make and keep them married as they did on their entrance? I hope so. ‘Cause you have to admit they’re a fun couple! They deserve to create a marriage that works!

JK Wedding Entrance

(OK, it does make me a tech­nical idjit that I can’t figure out how to put a video in, doesn’t it… I’ll try and get help. Until then, if you’re one of the ten people in the world who hasn’t seen this video, click on the link and go watch! Enjoy it, it’s fun!)

Tip: Want to spend the rest of your life making great entrances? Get to work on the wedding vows. They’re the blue­print for the rest of your life. Find support here. It’s worth dancing through the pages of the Wedding Vow Work­book. I’ll live in hope that you’ll write spec­tac­ular vows and get your­self on the Today Show!

10 Steps to Building the Perfect Wedding Ceremony: #4c Love, Love, Love

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Wedding cere­monies are full of priestly exhor­ta­tions (don’t you love that phrase? That’s how I like to think of my work!) to love one another. Often the “or else” is included! But it’s very rare to have the couple turn to each other in the cere­mony, and say, in a simple and straight­for­ward way, “I love you.”

You know what. You should do that. You should say “I love you and I intend to love you for the rest of my life.” You should hear those words from your beloved said aloud in front of your commu­nity. You should offer those words to your beloved in your own voice, not in a formula. Your commu­nity should under­stand how those simple and profound words are the truth of why we have all gathered.

Tip: Your offering of love should be sweet and straight­for­ward. After all, that’s what love is at it’s best. This is a State­ment of Intent worth living into. Why not offer one another your best during your wedding cere­mony? And then deliver during your marriage!

10 Steps to Building Your Perfect Wedding Ceremony: #4b Reasons of the Heart

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How does the saying go? Ah, Blaise Pascal: The heart has reasons that reason cannot know.

Your wedding cere­mony, and in partic­ular your SOI (State­ment of Intent) is your oppor­tu­nity to tell the world what your heart reasons are for marrying your beloved. They also set you up to remember. There’s some­thing about saying some­thing out loud that makes it more true. Tell your beloved and your beloved commu­nity why you’re marrying your beloved:

  • What is it about your partner that makes this ridicu­lous endeavor called marriage not only possible but real­istic for each of you?

You will come back to those words. In fact, 5 years from now when you’re slap­ping your fore­head, saying, “why did I do this, why?” Your partner will be able to say to you, “Sweetie, you married me because you LOVE my laid back nature.” Oh, right. I do.

The more you can share with your partner, and your world why you love and respect your beloved, the better the two of you will do in marriage.

Tip: Keep focusing on the good things. Let the world know how special this rela­tion­ship is. It will help them support you. It will help you revere and honor it. Nothing wrong with any of those things happening to your marriage!

10 Steps to Building the Perfect Wedding Ceremony: #4a Intentions

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Wedding cere­monies do many impor­tant things. But one thing that many miss is having the couple speak in their own language.

I’m a ritual queen. I love it when we use formu­laic state­ments that tie our words to the words and worlds of those who went before. It adds weight to what we do.

But I’m also aware that such an expe­ri­ence is deep­ened when the partic­i­pants (that would be sweetpea one and two!) speak in their own voices. It jars the listeners a bit and allows them to enter even more deeply into the cere­mony. The infor­mality allows the couple’s voices to be heard. That lodges in a different place, not neces­sarily sweeter, just different place from the formal pronounce­ments made by cele­brant and couple.

Tell your commu­nity (in one sentence):

  • What do you intend with this marriage? (Hint: to live happily and healthily ever after with your beloved.

They’ll be charmed. You’ll be glad you said what you wanted for the world to hear because the words will resonate with you forever.

Tip: The State­ment of Intent is an under-​​utilized and very impor­tant part of the cere­mony. Find the words to tell the world that you intend to be married forever. That’s the only way your commu­nity can support you. It will also help you focus on your dream.