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Build Community Support with the Way You Act at Your Wedding

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There are lots of reasons to stay focused on the wedding cere­mony at your wedding. One of those is that if you’ve seen the cere­mony as the high­point, the recep­tion can be all about having fun. (Trans­la­tion: you’ve exhaled!)

You’ve had a good time, you were conscious during your wedding cere­mony which allows your love for one another be visible to your commu­nity. That encour­ages your commu­nity to be excited about what you’re under­taking: “Look at them, they’re so comfort­able, it must be the right thing.” That unspoken belief engages people far more deeply in the success of your marriage.

So what’s another way to capture your community’s support?

  • Your Wedding Behavior:

Tip: Be joyous about your marriage. Move through your crowd alone and together, offering your excite­ment not just about your wedding day but also about the marriage you have created.

Build Community Support at Your Wedding Reception

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Your wedding recep­tion is a cele­bra­tion of your marriage. It’s also a grand time to work the crowd to thank people for attending and to raise support for this remark­able endeavor on which you’ve embarked!

This is an oppor­tu­nity for your commu­nity to see you in action together. You can, if you want choose to offer them the vision of the two of you getting drunk and tearing up the dance floor. That will teach them some­thing about you. But it’s prob­ably not what you wanted taught!

You want to use your recep­tion as an oppor­tu­nity to let people see how much fun you have together, how much you respect one another, how tender you are with each other.

Tip: Ask dear friends to offer toasts for your future. Let their love shine through and know that their state­ments of support will help the rest of your commu­nity under­stand their commit­ment (to your commit­ment!). Their exam­ples will be contagious.

Visit tables, spend time with people other than the friends you see every day. Yep, talk to the grand­par­ents. Rein­state the receiving line. Let people know how happy you are they are with you. Your being present to your commu­nity at your wedding is going to deliver the kind of support you want to have on your wedding day and throughout your marriage.

Use Your Wedding Vows to Help You Build Community Support

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One of the prin­cipal reasons for public wedding cere­monies is to build commu­nity support for your marriage. Marriages do better when rooted in community.

Your Wedding Vows are one way to engage your commu­nity. When you tell your commu­nity what you are going to do together, you give them some­thing to support.

You can also envi­sion your marriage firmly within your commu­nity as part of your vows. This will also encourage people to support you as they under­stand your desire and deter­mi­na­tion to be engaged in your community.

Tip: People long to be connected. Your inviting people to your wedding tells them that you want to be connected with them. Sharing your most dearly held dreams, for the success of your loving rela­tion­ship and your new family, allows them to under­stand how to support and to cele­brate with you. This is what you want!

Build Community Support with Your Wedding Ceremony

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Make a space in your wedding cere­mony for your commu­nity to promise their support and cele­bra­tion of your marriage.

Ask them to say “Yes!” to your love.

Help them under­stand that you are looking for their support and cele­bra­tion over the entire course of your marriage. Their promise to support you will change your lives. (it will also enrich theirs!) The clearer you are about what you need the more easily they can support you.

Tip: Turn the objec­tion ques­tion into a ques­tion about support and trans­form  it into a useful segment of the wedding cere­mony. Be delib­erate about building the support you need.

Begin the Search for Community Support with your Invitation

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The first step in your campaign to build support for your marriage is to create an Invi­ta­tion that explains to your guests

  1. that they are your beloved friends.
  2. that you want them to witness and cele­brate your wedding vows.
  3. that you will want them to support you and your marriage in the future.

Tip: Invite your Wedding Guests and let them know that they have a vital role to play in your life going forward. They’ll come to your wedding with different expec­ta­tions of what they will see and what role they will play in your life and marriage.