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Should Women Marry Money: The Planning

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The Wedding Priestess has been walking around mulling this over in her head.  The only reason Smart Girls Marry Money by Ford and Drake is inter­esting is that we’re looking at an insti­tu­tion gone wrong. Most of us would hesi­tate before an oper­a­tion with only a 50 percent survival rate, partic­u­larly if our chances of muddling through without it were so-​​so as well.

But we often don’t think before we marry about how we’re going to make this rela­tion­ship work. Hey, I’m a geezer babe, suppos­edly full of wisdom, and I never thought about this. Steve’s and my marriage is odder than most in the way we have arranged our money and our marriage.

But money matters. We’re finding that out as everyone hits the reces­sion. You have to plan wisely for your family. Even wise plan­ning doesn’t always help, but plan­ning helps better than no plan­ning. How are the two of you going to provide for your family? And by family, read that not only as your darling babes and their college educa­tions, but also as your retire­ment. Money is one of those things that breaks marriages up, and guess what, when you break up a marriage,  money doesn’t get easier and the fighting doesn’t stop. Partic­u­larly if there are chil­dren. So, not so helpful.

Tip: This is one of those things that you can talk about. This is one of those things you should talk about. Plan for your future. Because whether or not you do, it’s coming. Some­times it’s better to plan.

A great wedding toast: Part One — Preparation

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Wedding Priestess offers you her sincerest congrat­u­la­tions! You’re a good enough friend of the bride and/​or groom that you’ve been invited to make a toast. There’s nothing sweeter than to be able to tell a friend publicly how much you love and admire them. We don’t do this often enough, publicly or privately. This is a big deal. So let me make it all easier for you: Here’s a quick 3-​​part series that will make it all flow easily for you: Before you start building the toast, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • It should be short. No, really short.
  • It should be compli­men­tary. No “funny” horror stories.
  • It should thank them for the honor of repre­senting their commu­nity and being their friend.
  • It should be about the bride and groom and not about you. Talk about why they’re good candi­dates for this wonderful rela­tion­ship and right for each other.
  • It always ends with a toast to their future. Wish them the best life possible. (and they say you should always toast with alcohol!)

Tip: Offering your friends respect, encour­age­ment and well-​​wishes is an art form we would all do well to culti­vate. Let’s not let it die! Let’s figure it out and knock the ball out of the park. You do look so much cuter when you’re deliv­ering a heart­felt message, so why not do some­thing wonderful and have it reflect well on you — forever!

10 Ways to Choose Your Wedding Gown — #10

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Don’t over­look the simple but elegant solu­tion: #10.    Make it: I had friend do this for me. The dress was perfect for me and I looked stun­ning. Now, I know a lot of people so my odds are greater of knowing someone. But if I could find someone in nowhere Penn­syl­vania who did not just sewing, but design, my guess is you might too! And with a little work on Google or even a (gasp) phone­book, you could find someone.

Tip: What’s great about this is that you get to select the fabrics and the pattern. So every­thing is just perfect. And some­times, if you do it with a friend, it’s an incred­ible amount of fun!

10 Ways to Choose Your Wedding Gown — #8

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The Daring #8:    Shared: I’ve only found this once. But if I’ve encoun­tered it, it’s been done before and since. Someone actu­ally adver­tised and found someone her own size and taste and they bought a gown together. They didn’t know one another and were getting married a few months apart. Could have been tragic, if bride number one had had spaghetti for her wedding meal, but bride number two had another option up her sleeve if that tanked! More common is someone you know has a dress, and is willing to lend it to you.

Tip: Think outside the box here. There are lots of ways to share dresses with people if you just think a bit about it! This makes the entire expe­ri­ence much cheaper!