Category Archives: Creating Ceremonies

Use Your Wedding Vows to Help You Build Community Support

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One of the prin­cipal reasons for public wedding cere­monies is to build commu­nity support for your marriage. Marriages do better when rooted in community.

Your Wedding Vows are one way to engage your commu­nity. When you tell your commu­nity what you are going to do together, you give them some­thing to support.

You can also envi­sion your marriage firmly within your commu­nity as part of your vows. This will also encourage people to support you as they under­stand your desire and deter­mi­na­tion to be engaged in your community.

Tip: People long to be connected. Your inviting people to your wedding tells them that you want to be connected with them. Sharing your most dearly held dreams, for the success of your loving rela­tion­ship and your new family, allows them to under­stand how to support and to cele­brate with you. This is what you want!

Build Community Support with Your Wedding Ceremony

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Make a space in your wedding cere­mony for your commu­nity to promise their support and cele­bra­tion of your marriage.

Ask them to say “Yes!” to your love.

Help them under­stand that you are looking for their support and cele­bra­tion over the entire course of your marriage. Their promise to support you will change your lives. (it will also enrich theirs!) The clearer you are about what you need the more easily they can support you.

Tip: Turn the objec­tion ques­tion into a ques­tion about support and trans­form  it into a useful segment of the wedding cere­mony. Be delib­erate about building the support you need.

Why Have a Public Wedding Ceremony?

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The goal of a wedding cere­mony is to produce a life­long marriage. Your wedding cere­mony can estab­lish the work you will do throughout your shared lives as you create your successful union. If designed right, a public cere­mony can help you muster the support and encour­age­ment you want to make your marriage easier. Use the right metaphors, ask the right ques­tions and make the right promises to make your cere­mony an eternal reminder of the love that brought you together and convinced you to embark on this fabu­lous, uncer­tain endeavor.

Eloping may seem simpler. But it can rob you of both senti­ment and support that is so helpful when obsta­cles arise. Keeping the focus on the reason you’re marrying – your great romance – will help you simplify your plan­ning and cele­brate what’s impor­tant with the people who matter in your life.

Tip: Stay tuned for the seven excel­lent reasons a public wedding cere­mony will make your marriage thrive (and your cere­mony much more interesting!)

Your Wedding Guests: Who are they?

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Your wedding guests are one of your marriage’s greatest resources. When you invite them to witness your wedding vows and ask them for support during the wedding cere­mony, they will take that respon­si­bility seri­ously. I haven’t run into a marriage that hasn’t had to call on its commu­nity at some point, whether its carpooling the kids, giving advice or showing up at the tough times. You want good friends at your wedding ceremony.

One of the best ways I ever saw of intro­ducing the guests to one another was a creating a booklet detailing who the guests were, what their work and hobbies were and how they were connected to the bride and groom. The couple had written sweet state­ments about each person invited to the wedding. The book­lets were shared at the wedding. (Better idea is to send them out before­hand.)

Tip: when you choose the guests who will be invited to your wedding, write a one word sentence beside their name about why you’re grateful that they are part of your life — some­thing personal, not generic. Count each and everyone of those bless­ings, as you invite them, as you send them a little booklet, and then as you see them sitting before you as you’re coming down the aisle at your wedding.

Ann

Wedding Ceremony: Engaging the Sense of Sight (2)

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But don’t get me wrong, white, ivory and cream have a rich­ness all their own. Layers of that rich­ness call to mind bakery confec­tions… our minds easily accept the trans­fer­ence from pastry to Wedding Cere­mony. Layers and poofs of white or long sleek elegant lines of ivory can each bring some­thing special to the wedding cere­mony. Continue reading →