February 22nd, 2010
Last night I sat at dinner next to a bride who has actually planned out her wedding ceremony (and her wedding is still months away! Go, grrl!) Her minister was pleased but taken aback. Who plans ahead for this? Who has input to offer their celebrant?
Well, You! or at least I’m hoping.
The two of you want to be working on the wedding ceremony. Planning your ceremony is (or should be) planning your marriage. What do you want to say to one another? How would you like your community to support you in your marriage?
Tip: Your wedding ceremony isn’t something you want to be leaving to chance. It’s going to shape your marriage for a long time to come. So why not have some input into that?
February 12th, 2010
We don’t do enough of it. And rather than heed the prods to spend money (who has any of that while you’re planning for a wedding?), you can choose to deepen the sizzle.
Create a kissing tour! Plan a day or an evening around sweet places to kiss. Carry a pocketful of candy hearts. Offer one (and your own great loving heart) at each place. Every place in the world has wonderful places to kiss. And let’s face it , a great kiss can make almost every place in the world wonderful. (yes, that’s a challenge!)
Tip: Think ahead, plan for smooches and get kissing!
Immortalize your kisses and your favorite kissing spots!
February 8th, 2010
I know that Valentine’s Day as we know it was invented by our halls of consumption. But that’s no reason not to take it back and shape it to fit your relationship!
Why not use this week to set some new ways of running your relationship? Why not try things that will kick start the romance and the fun!
Consider this: Call your beloved for a date to do some silly thing together.
Yes, I know you see him/her every day. But act as if this relationship is important enough to make a formal request to spend time in one another’s company. And then plan a walk in the snow, or making a snow person or two (if you live along the Atlantic Seaboard, you’re likely to have some snow to play in!
Tip: Start out, or get back to the way you would like to go on! Bring back the romance!: :
January 27th, 2010
I hear a lot of whining about the weather these days. And it’s true; winter can seem to go on a long time. But actually it’s the same length as other seasons. It serves an important purpose in the cycle of growth. And if you look around there is promise everywhere. And promise is what weddings are all about. And you don’t want to be so busy whining about the weather that you miss the fact that the light is changing dramatically in wonderful and hopeful ways!
So this is a perfect time to get married! (says the woman married on February 2!)
And what better way to celebrate that coming into being than decorating your table with small pots of flowers in differing stages of blooming. Pastel blooms peaking out of green leaves signify the promise to come. An occasional paperwhite burst into full scent foretells what’s to come. Is this sounding like marriage yet?
Tip: Bulbs are a beautiful (and dare I say it, cost effective) way of celebrating your wedding in this season of promise!
Now, doesn't this image say blooming marriage?
January 20th, 2010
The last week before your wedding is best used for something other than chores.
Yes, actually, you can finish up early. You don’t need to be shopping for (fill-in-the-blanks) on Wednesday when you’re getting married on Saturday. Seems to be a little known secret that they sell stockings on weeks other than the one you’re getting married, and if you were planning on wearing hose, they won’t disintegrate if you get them early.
All this running around adds stress. And stress makes for distance between you and your sweetiebeloved. And you are getting married. Distance between you and your sweetiebeloved is not a helpful ingredient for your wedding day.
Tip: It’s important that you sleep right, eat right, and hang out with the wonderful friends who are arriving from around the globe to wish you well. If you’re absolutely hell-bent on your week of stress, go ahead and plan it a month before your wedding. Then you can use this time to hang out with your soon-to-be spouse.
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