Category Archives: Ritual Activities

Selling Kisses as Wedding Shower Fun

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When I was in Sweden, I saw a fun and funny wedding shower going on. The bride and her brides­maids were on the street selling kisses. They were easily iden­ti­fi­able as a group: all had on the same green t-​​shirts and the bride had a veil on.

They had contacted a charity and were gath­ering money for the charity. It was very fun and for a very good cause. People were completely appro­priate with the bride and her buddies. It was also completely unknown to me as a concept.

Tip: Do some­thing fun and different for a wedding shower for your dear friend and generate a little money for a good cause!

Fall Wedding Ritual: Sip a Complex Red Wine

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Even though red wines can be fatal to a white dress, if you take care, you can avoid mishaps. (Because you really don’t want to add a Tide Pen† to your wedding ritual!)

Talk about your differ­ences and your simi­lar­i­ties and how in this marriage they are blending together as they have in this fabu­lous wine you have chosen for today’s ritual. You might want to talk about the tastes and what each repre­sents and the role it plays in making the rela­tion­ship (and the wine!) great. (Check out the video for some pointers on finding the right red wine!)

Red Wines

Tip: Choose a wine that pleases you, design your cere­mony around it and invite your commu­nity to toast your long life at the recep­tion with this wonderful wine.

What do you want from a Metaphor: #8

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The image you chose as a metaphor

8.    should support the wedding vows you are making.

You don’t need to have it in the vows, but the picture the image offers helps everyone to under­stand why you are offering those specific promises.

Your vows should be written from your strengths, values and talents. They should shore up those areas of your rela­tion­ship that are not perhaps inately your best talents. Your metaphor should help everyone envi­sion the work you are under­taking. It should be a talisman throughout the years to remind you of the work you are doing… and the joy you have in making these commitments.

Tip: The stronger the iden­ti­fi­ca­tion you can make with a metaphor, and the more frequently the image appears in your life, the more support it will offer your marriage. It will also remind your commu­nity to support you when­ever they see the image show up and they make the connec­tion to your promises to one another.

What do you want from a Metaphor: #6

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Metaphors work best

6.    When there is an activity that accom­pa­nies it.

Food you eat, things you plant, water you spill out. These allow the image to settle in more deeply.

The more common the images, the more they will be rein­forced in our daily lives.  The more they’re rein­forced in our daily lives, the greater the meaninng they will have in our marriages.

Tip: choose a metaphor to describe your love that can be rein­forced with a small activity. Use it in your wedding cere­mony. For 3 weeks after­wards, do the action and think of the way you love one another. There you are, with your love for one another sealed into the sharing of bread, for the rest of your life.

What do you want from a Metaphor: #5

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What else is going to make a metaphor able to support you as time goes on?

5.    The image should be comfortable.

You want an image that will settle into your hearts and psyches and provide an a continual glow to renew your connec­tion with your wedding day.

Metaphors that work are simple, attrac­tive and don’t unsettle you. They should invite you. If your love is like a warm blanket, then every time you and your beloved get into bed and pull a partic­ular blanket up over you, perhaps a coverlet you received as part of your wedding gifts, you’re rein­forcing the image you gener­ated at your wedding. All of the bless­ings of the marriage bed are in that simple action of pulling up the covers.

Tip: Find an image to use that will serve you into the life of your marriage. Choose a metaphor that will become more rather than less comfort­able. Some­thing that will wear in, rather than out, as it gets more use.