Here’s a great way to start figuring out what really matters to you in your life. If you do the work for the holidays, you’ll have a headstart when you start planning your wedding. What? You didn’t know you get to have your wedding be about your values? Now you do!
Before you start making a lot of holiday plans that you might get stuck in forever, why not figure out what makes each of you and both of you happy about the holidays?
- What do you like to do? What are your favorite holiday memories? How can you repeat them?
- What do you care about? From cookies, to caroling to volunteering? What do the holidays say to you?
- Who do you want to spend time with? Are holidays about friends? family? people in need? You get to choose!
- What holiday traditions would you like to establish in your own home? When you’re newly engaged or newly married, it can be easily assumed that you’ll go to other people’s houses. That may not be the only way you want to have the holidays.
Tip: Talking about these things and planning ahead will serve you in very good stead in the years to come. It will also establish a pattern of discerning what really matters to you which will be great for the wedding and for your life. Why not have yourselves a happy little holiday season?
I’ve been in discussion with my husband about what kind of holiday traditions we want to create with our family — now that our son is almost three. We’ve been married for eight years and had never really discussed it!
It’s tricky when there are such different family backgrounds but we’ll get there!
Lisa
http://LisaKiftTherapy.com