Good wedding vows make good marriages. What if your wedding vows weren’t some­thing you simply said at your wedding cere­mony? What if you crafted your vows as the working docu­ment that will carry your rela­tion­ship into the future? Because you know, that’s the job of your wedding vows: to give you clear guide­lines in the work of making your marriage. They are to be the heart of your marriage and the foun­da­tion of the family you will grow in this new marriage. That they will make a beau­tiful center­piece for your wedding cere­mony is lovely, but it is more crucial that they are the corner stone in building a wedding cere­mony that does its job – making you married!

While marriage vows need to be general enough that the two of you have some room to work things out as life inter­jects itself into your care­fully made plans, they also need to be specific enough that you know when you are and aren’t keeping them.

Tip: Couples need to develop a process for recog­nizing when their inten­tions for keeping their vows goes awry and then for getting back into align­ment with their deepest desires and highest intentions.

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