July 2nd, 2009
That ancient question, “who gives the bride to be married?” is a hangover from the marriage ceremony’s life as a financial contract. What it’s really asking is “Who owns the property.”
Nice, eh?
So, you probably don’t want to ask that question.
However, you do want your parents to be able to answer a question. Buy in helps. Get both sets of parents buying in! You’re going to need their support, so get it early
- Ask a question that allows your parents to announce both their love for you and their willingness and pleasure in welcoming your partner in to their fold.
- Ask a question that invites your parents to form a clan around you.
Tip: Families are not separated by marriage, they are built by marriage. Mix up the clans and have a much richer life!
July 1st, 2009
One of the things we often overlook in wedding ceremonies is the importance of expressing appreciation and gratitude.
You’re getting married to an unbelievable person. If that doesn’t deserve a moment of awestruck wonder and gratitude, what does? It’s an important part of a wedding ceremony.
But equally important is taking the time to thank the people who taught you, to the best of their abilities, to say I love you and to show love. To be love. However mixed up your family, and many are, the fact is, what they wanted most was to love you and see you flourish. For some of those people we have to admit, they only manage that on their best days and they may not have a lot of them.
But most people really do the best they can. Appreciate that. I find two things happen when sincere thanks are expressed:
- Parents’ and families’ hearts are warmed by your gratitude. Warm hearts have room for more love!
- People who are thanked somehow see you as ready to move on to the next phase of your life, in this case your new family. It softens the inevitable transitions of relationship.
Tip: Thank the peope who brought you this far and who will be there for you in the future. (Because if you hadn’t wanted them to be there, you wouldn’t have invited them.) And you have to hope if the relationships are difficult that your thanking them will ease the relationship. So you not only express your gratitude, you also may better those ties. Not a bad thing at all.
June 30th, 2009
Build the wedding ceremony and the wedding vows that will lead you to happily and healthily ever after. Here are the products that will take you where you want to go!
Tip: Now go get them before they disappear!
June 27th, 2009
Over in the e-book section of the shop there are great bargains to be had on the tips products. Each of the booklets will walk (and sometimes even waltz) you through some of the more difficult decisions made by brides and grooms (whom to invite, whom to ask to stand up with you, your wedding style, and the basis for your wedding and marriage). Get these booklets and make good decisions that will keep you engaged and celebrating your up-coming nuptials and marriage!
Tip: Working through one of these workbooklets will make you feel as great as my SweetPea and I did when we watched these fireworks captured by my buddie Barbie at last night’s opening to the 4th of July week here in Lewisburg.
June 25th, 2009
Strong wedding vows make strong and lasting marriages. Crafting your own vows engages you in the creation and sustaining of wedding vows that you’re willing and able to keep. Today, Governor Sanford can say that he was sexually unfaithful to his wife… how many different parts of his wedding covenants did he break before sex entered into the picture?
Wedding vows have to be crafted to suit your talents and support your weaknesses. They also need to be a working document to which your committed. Marriage is a process not an occasion.
Big sale today on the Wedding Vow Workbook that helps you learn:
What’s in a vow.
Why you want to make an oath to one another.
How your keeping your vows is integral to your integrity.
What your relationship values are.
What you’re willing to risk, compromise and promise.
How important your respect and love is for your partner.
Where you think your relationship might need support.
How to find the metaphors that will support your vows.
Why you want to use formal language to make your vows.
Why you should make the same vows to one another.
How to create the vows you’ll want to keep, together.
Tip: This simple workbook can help you create the vows that you will want to keep forever. Not a bad investment of your time and money, eh?
